Sunday, November 2, 2014
So, I finally have the motivation to do some personal writing. The past couple of weeks have been both amazing and frustrating. However, I've realized why I have been having a hard time focusing. October 30th was the 2 year anniversary of the day that I was incarcerated. It’s hard to believe that it’s been 2 years because in many ways, it seems like I was just released. Although, my emotions are definitely stabilized and I have no desire to act as recklessly as I did in the past, I find myself still isolating from everything and every one. It’s strange because I used to be so social and outgoing. As I’ve worked through getting to a healthy place, I know that my outgoing persona was just a mask to protect myself from dealing with those things that were too painful. Even though I know that being outgoing is a part of who I am, I did not expect that I would flip to the complete opposite side of my personality. However, it's no surprise considering my life revolves around extremes. The frustrating part of this personality roller coaster is finding myself still struggling to find that middle ground!
Looking back at the past 2 years, I can see how much I have changed in the sense that hurting myself and others is not on my radar. I can recognize when lying, manipulating and “faking” who I am, starts to creep back up from the internal box where I've placed all of my negative habits. Unfortunately, crawling into my cave and resisting the pull from the outside world is still very much hindering the direction that I want to go. Being a writer does make it easier to “stay inside” sort of speak, but I do know that there is an entire world out there that I need to experience. Certainly it could improve my writing to at least be inspired by all that is “out there”!
Now, on to the good news!! I have recently signed a contract to write a True Crime novel. It is one of the best writing experiences that I have ever had. The genre I have always been most drawn to is non-fiction so this is right up my alley. Plus the research involved is nirvana for me. Yes, I am one of those people who could sit and pour through documents, transcripts, interviews etc., for days at a time! I am currently wrapping up the first part of the research and beginning the process of writing the prologue and the first couple of chapters. What a blessing and what a terrifying experience I find myself in. Every day, I have to repeat the affirmation, “I will not sabotage myself because I deserve this success”. Ugh... I mean.. Yaayyyy
Ok… so amazing things in the future. The truth? I’m scared to death!! I definitely vacillate between rocking in a corner and pulling up my big girl panties and just doing what I need to do. I already know it's gonna be a roller coaster. However, I am so grateful that you are all on this journey with me!
Posted by Sivaquoi Laughlin
Born and raised in beautiful southern Idaho. Divorced with two gorgeous daughters. Currently living in Boise's historic North End where I write, hike with my 3 dogs and spend countless hours enjoying all that this amazing city has to offer.
Presently surrounded by research, pencils, notebooks and my trusty laptop working on a narrative non-fiction novel, short stories and the occasional freelance grant. When not writing, I try to keep up and savvy on social media, posting to my blog www.behindhersmile.com and spending time with family and friends.